Self-trust.

It’s such a BIG thing.

Do you have it?

Is it something you are still having to figure out?

When I was 29, all of a sudden I was single. End of an 11-year relationship. I was living on my own for the first time. I had to work out not only where I was going to live but on a simpler level, how I wanted to decorate my home. For the first time in my life, there were no compromises, no one else to consider, I got to decide what I liked and I didn’t have a clue. 

The next year, I took a solo trip to the UK and Europe. 6 weeks of navigating planes, trains, hotels, and day tours, all on my own. No one to complain to. No safety person with me to help me out. I had a suitcase almost as tall as me and so heavy I couldn’t lift it upstairs or onto trains. 

& it was on this trip, that I first learnt self-trust. 

I had gone over to London with a return ticket but no plans of what I would do over the 6 weeks. So at the end of my first week in London, with no further accommodation booked, I needed to quickly work out where I wanted to go, and what I wanted to see and do. 

& that’s exactly what I did. I worked it out. 

& as this was before Google Maps, wifi, Messenger and WhatsApp, I communicated with my family through emails written at Internet Cafes. I used physical maps, guide books, problem-solved as I went along, trusted my gut and had the BEST trip. 

I didn’t just survive, I thrived. 

I heard it said that anxiety is a fear of the future because you don’t trust that you have the skills to manage what comes up. 

& that’s why self-trust is so important. 

Knowing that you can handle whatever comes up is a superpower. It means you can say YES without fear. 

It means you don’t have to overthink.

Or over plan. 

It means you can be more flexible, less anxious and more present. 

So let me ask you again. Do you trust yourself?

& if you aren’t sure, do something that makes you reliant on yourself, so you can build it.